Islam permits the beating of wives

Women enjoy being beaten at times as a sign of love and concern.

The purpose of beating her is only to discipline… This treatment is proved to be very effective….

Obeying the husband is an obligation on the women in Islam, it is an act of worship

It is  a great obligation upon the wife to be always available for the consummation of her husband’s desire; and it is a major sin for her to deny her husband the intimate pleasure that he seeks with her…

But the real problem is “Islamophobia”

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Wife “beating in Islam is a type of education”: Canadian Islamic perspective
Sareen Qureshi, a student activist and “recruitment manager” and York University in Toronto, suggests that the Islamophobic incidents in Canada aimed at women wearing a religious veil are in fact “gender-based crimes.”

Sareen Qureshi, a student activist and “recruitment manager” and York University in Toronto, suggests that the Islamophobic incidents in Canada aimed at women wearing a religious veil are in fact “gender-based crimes.”

In her editorial in Excalibar, York University’s Community Newspaper (Vol. 50, Issue 15, November 25, 2015, p. 5), Sareen Qureshi wrote among other things the following:

“Recently, there have been instances of women in niqabs being beaten while walking down the street. Muslim women are afraid to go out and limit their going out in public…

“There have been numerous cases of Muslim women being attacked in Toronto… These hate crimes are more than just about religion; they are gender-based crimes… I have been fortunate that no one has attacked me, even though I cover my head, but I do get strange looks and comments sometimes. I always have to be very careful of the people around me when I am in public. Even my family worries about me when I go out.”

Sareen Qureshi portrays a widespread phenomena of Muslim women being attacked by apparently non-Muslims motivated by blind hatred to Islam, but she fails to bring any statistical data to support her argument or to analyze the motives (Islamophobia, trading mutual racist smears by both sides, criminal etc.) of the very few reported cases occurred recently in Toronto.

Nonetheless, Sareen Qureshi’s accusation of “gender-based crimes” committed by apparently non-Muslims should be taken seriously and investigated thoroughly by law enforcement agencies.

This should be also the basis for a similar investigation on possible “gender-based crimes” occurred at York University campus in the beginning of the year.

York Muslim Students’ Association (MSA) held in campus (February 23-27, 2015) the annual event of Islam Awareness Week bearing the title “What Does The Qur’an Say?”

York MSA Female students wearing hijab and niqab, who manned the Info Booth at the Central Square of York University, handed out to students the book “Women in Islam & Refutation of some Common Misconceptions,” authored by the Saudi scholar Dr. Abdul-Rahman al-Sheha and printed by the Saudi Dawah organization Muslim World League (رابطة العالم الاسلامي). For Blogwrath’s report on the event click here.

The following are excerpts of the book:

“Although beating of women is generally forbidden, Islam permits the beating of wives in a restricted and limited sense only as a final solution and acceptable valid reason when all else fails… Allah deals with the case of a wife who behaves immorally towards her husband’s rights. The treatment of this extremely sensitive issue comes in gradual stages… Third and final stage: Beating without hurting, breaking a bone, leaving black or blue marks on the body, and avoiding hitting the face or especially sensitive places at any cost. The purpose of beating her is only to discipline… This treatment is proved to be very effective with two types of women… The first type: Strong willed, demanding and commandeering women… The second type: Submissive or subdued women. These women may even enjoy being beaten at times as a sign of love and concern… Beating, according to the Islamic teachings, is listed as the last and final stage of disciplining methods.”

Wife’s status in Islam – The Muslim Canadian perspective 

Islamic literature prevalent in Islamic bookstores or being distributed for free in Canada, and prominent Canadian Imams representing the Muslim community mainstream, provide provide an interesting Islamic perspective with regard to women’s rights in Islam:

Jamal Badawi (Nova Scotia): According Islam women unfit by nature to lead because they undergo various physiological and psychological changes during their monthly periods and pregnancies.

Imam Omar Subedar (Ontario): “Men are in charge of women… Allah has permitted the husband to discipline his wife by striking her… wives… have an obligation to be obedient to their husbands.”

Sheik Houssein Muhammad Amer (Quebec): Wife “beating in Islam is a type of education.. The beating is a type of education… the beating is used after exhausting all effective and successful [possible] solutions and [it turned out that] there is no treatment without it… This is the case regarding the wife if you are right… if the estrangement fails the beating [of the wife] is permitted.”

Sheikh Musleh Khan (Ontario): The husband is the only leader of the family; “the wife should be obedient to her husband at all times” including when he call her to bed; she should “ask her husband permission before leaving the home” and “is obliged to serve her husband.”

Sheikh Ahmed Abdul Kader Kandil (Quebec): “The man has a right over his wife also regarding the issue of obedience in the sense that she has to obey him on any matter and particularly when the man calls his wife to bed.”

Imam Abdi Hersy (Alberta): “The husband has many rights [حقوق] on his wife… first and foremost, she has to obey you. She has to obey you, ok. He comes with the orders. You have to give orders and she has to obey you… That’s one of the rights of the husband for his wife. So she is going to cook and clean and prepare food… So she has to obey you… And the biggest thing when it comes to obeying your husband, ladies, is when he calls you in the bed stop what you are doing, quit… Obey your husband… The other thing that is a right upon the wife for her husband is she cannot leave the house without his permission

First and foremost, ladies obey husbands… First and foremost, if you order her to pray or to obey Allah… she has no choice but to obey him… if husband calls his wife to his bed and she refuses without any valid excuse… the angels curse her until morning… She has to listen if he orders to restrain herself or refrain from haram [forbidden action]. She wants to do haram [forbidden action], and he says no, she has to obey him with that… if you order to do prayer, do prayers… she has to obey you, she cannot say no.”

Abu Ameenah Bilal Philips (Ontario): “Men are considered the head of the family and the final decisions are in his hand… her responsibility is to obey him as long as his requests are permissible according to Islamic law… [In] Islam, a woman is obliged to give herself to her husband and he may not be charged with rape… It is true that the Sharee’ah does permit a husband to hit his wife… The Qur’anic verse outlines the procedures which should be followed in the case of a rebellious and unjustly disobedient wife… the intent of this beating is not inflicting pain and punishment but merely to bring the woman back to her senses and re-establish authority in the family.”

Shaykh Said Rageah (Ontario): “Also something that we are not doing it is [that] we no longer have the ghirah [protective jealousy] that is needed… when a man looks at your sister or your wife and her brother passes by what should you [her brother] do? Knocking him out. Right?

Sa’ad bin Ubaada was the man [who] got married and the family delivered the wife on a horse, and as soon as she got off the horse, what did he do? He took his dagger and killed the horse… He said: no, no man will sit where my wife sat

And Allah said in the Quran: go and find four witnesses if you find a man with your wife. And Sa’ad said… you want me to find a man with my wife and I’ll say: Hey guys, stay where you are and I’ll bring four witnesses God Willing [ان شاء الله]. Don’t go anywhere. He said: O Messenger of Allah, [يا رسول الله] by the time I bring my witnesses they were done. It’s over. The business is over. In that kind of business what do you expect?

He said: I swear by Allah, O the Messenger of Allah [والله يا رسول الله], I swear by Allah [واللهI will kill them both with the back of my sword. Meaning [يعنى] he [didn’t] come with the edge of his sword, [but] the back, so they’d die slowly. That’s how he wants to kill them. So [Muhammad’s] companions [صحابة] [said]: How could you say that Messenger of Allah peace and blessing be upon him. The Messenger of Allah [Prophet Muhammad] said: Are you concerned about Sa’ad’s jealousy? I swear by Allah that I’m more jealous than Sa’ad and Allah is more jealous than I.”

The book “The Fragile Vessels” by Muhammad al-Jibaly: the husband/ father is “the leader of the family” and responsible for “ the ‘dirty’ job of discipline” as he “has the obligation of enforcing the ‘family laws‘… If the first two steps do not work with the wife and she continues to be disobedient and rebellious, the husband may resort to hitting her… The woman should demonstrate her acceptance to her husband’s authority by showing willingness to serve him to her best ability… Obeying the husband is an obligation on the women in Islam, it is an act of worship… That includes performing the daily chores, serving his food, and so on… It is therefore a great obligation upon the wife to be always available for the consummation of her husband’s desire; and it is a major sin for her to deny her husband the intimate pleasure that he seeks with her… refusing to do that is a major sin that deserves the angels’ curse and Allah’s wrath… the wife can be a source of honor or depravity for the whole family.”

The husband is also obliged to have “protective jealousy” towards his wife. “Ghayrah [or ghirah, protective jealousy]… As a demonstration of a man’s toward his wife, he should have ghayrah for her. Ghayrah is the great concern about her well being and the zeal to protect her from anything that might harm her person, such as an evil touch, word or look… A person without ghayrah is called dayyuth [ديوث]. A dayyuth is a person who has no sense of protection or honor regarding his wife. As we discussed in the second book of this series a dayyuth will not enter Jannah [paradise].”

The book “Human Rights in Islam and Common Misconceptions” by Abdul-Rahman al-Sheha: “A husband has the right of ultimate authority of the home management since he is responsible for them and is accountable for all aspects of their maintenance… One reason among many for this degree of responsibility is that men are generally stronger and rational whereas women are generally weaker and more emotional, traits given by their Creator to serve their complementary roles in life and in the family. A wife is required to obey the commands and instructions of her husband as long as these do not involve any act of disobedience to Allah’s command and the Prophet’s instructions… A wife is required to protect the children and the lineage of her husband by protecting herself and being completely chaste. She should be a trustworthy guardian of his wealth. She should not leave her husband’s home without his prior knowledge and approval, nor allow any person to enter in his home whom her husband dislikes. This is to protect the honor and harmony of the family, as instructed by the Messenger of Allah…”

The book “Rulings Pertaining to Muslim Women” by the Saudi scholar Dr. Saleh Fauzan al-Fauzan: “It is obligatory upon the Muslim Woman to obey her husband in that which is halal… ‘If a man asks his wife to go to bed with him, and she does not come to him, and he spends the night angry with her, the angels curse her until the morning.’ Narrated by Bukhari and Muslim and others… Among the rights of a husband upon his wife is that she looks after his house and does not go outside unless she has his permission… So it is upon the Muslim woman to lower and avert her gaze from men, and not look at the provocative pictures which are found in various media, magazines, TV and video, in order to protect herself from evil consequences.”

The book “Minhaj-Al-Muslim” by Abu Bakr Al-Jazairy: “It is obligatory upon the husband to fulfill the following etiquette with respect to his wife… He must also disciple her if he fears Nushooz (recalcitrance on her part) in the way that Allah has ordered the women to be disciplined… If she does not obey him… he may beat her lightly, not in the face and not in a bruising manner or one which would cause bleeding, tearing of the skin, breaking of a bone or the like… He must make her adhere to the Islamic teachings and manners. He should rebuke her whenever she may go against those teachings. He must prevent her from appearing without Hijab and displaying her beauty… He should not give her any opportunity to go against the commands of Allah and His Messenger and to be disobedient.”

The book “The Lawful and the Prohibited in Islam” by Yusuf Al Qaradawi: “Because of his natural ability and his responsibility for providing for his family, the man is the head of the house and of the family. He is entitled to the obedience and cooperation of his wife, and accordingly it is not permissible for her to rebel against his authority, causing disruption… “If the husband senses that feelings of disobedience and rebelliousness are rising against him in his wife… If this approach fails, it is permissible for him to beat her lightly with his hands… To be specific, one may beat only to safeguard Islamic behavior and if he (the husband) sees deviation only in what she must do or obey in relation to him.”

The book “The Ideal Muslimah” by Muhammad Ali Al-Hashimi: “The true Muslim woman is always obedient to her husband… One of the most important ways in which the Muslim woman obeys her husband is by respecting his wishes with regard to the permissible pleasures of daily life, such as social visits, food, dress, speech, etc… it is the woman’s duty to respond to her husband’s requests for conjugal relations. She should not give silly excuses and try to avoid it.”

The book “The Muslim Marriage Guide” by Ruqaiyah Waris Maqsood: “The Prophet (P.B.U.H) did not forbid a man from giving instructions to his wife, as long as these were in accordance with Islam, or from giving his wife some form of physical discipline… There is only one Qur’anic verse that grants husbands permission, and it states that this is only in cases where they genuinely fear nushuz (‘rebellion,’ which is in this context means treating the husband with arrogance and refusing the marital bed as a permanent principle, not just the odd occasion when the woman might have been ill)… Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient.”