Afghanistan: when I grow up, I will have my own boyz……

Afghanistan’s dirty little secret

Joel Brinkley

Western forces fighting in southern Afghanistan had a problem. Too often, soldiers on patrol passed an older man walking hand-in-hand with a pretty young boy. Their behavior suggested he was not the boy’s father. Then, British soldiers found that young Afghan men were actually trying to “touch and fondle them,” military investigator AnnaMaria Cardinalli told me. “The soldiers didn’t understand.”

“Bacha Bereesh,” literally “beardless boys,” chosen for their height, size and beauty, trained to sing and dance for male audiences, are traded for sexual favors among former warlords and powerful businessmen.

All of this was so disconcerting that the Defense Department hired Cardinalli, a social scientist, to examine this mystery. Her report, “Pashtun Sexuality,” startled not even one Afghan. But Western forces were shocked – and repulsed.

For centuries, Afghan men have taken boys, roughly 9 to 15 years old, as lovers. Some research suggests that half the Pashtun tribal members in Kandahar and other southern towns arebacha baz, the term for an older man with a boy lover. Literally it means “boy player.” The men like to boast about it.

“Having a boy has become a custom for us,” Enayatullah, a 42-year-old in Baghlan province, told a Reuters reporter. “Whoever wants to show off should have a boy.”

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Baghlan province is in the northeast, but Afghans say pedophilia is most prevalent among Pashtun men in the south. The Pashtun are Afghanistan’s most important tribe. For centuries, the nation’s leaders have been Pashtun.

President Hamid Karzai is Pashtun, from a village near Kandahar, and he has six brothers. So the natural question arises: Has anyone in the Karzai family been bacha baz? Two Afghans with close connections to the Karzai family told me they know that at least one family member and perhaps two were bacha baz. Afraid of retribution, both declined to be identified and would not be more specific for publication.

As for Karzai, an American who worked in and around his palace in an official capacity for many months told me that homosexual behavior “was rampant” among “soldiers and guys on the security detail. They talked about boys all the time.”

He added, “I didn’t see Karzai with anyone. He was in his palace most of the time.” He, too, declined to be identified.

In Kandahar, population about 500,000, and other towns, dance parties are a popular, often weekly, pastime. Young boys dress up as girls, wearing makeup and bells on their feet, and dance for a dozen or more leering middle-aged men who throw money at them and then take them home. A recent State Department report called “dancing boys” a “widespread, culturally sanctioned form of male rape.”

So, why are American and NATO forces fighting and dying to defend tens of thousands of proud pedophiles, certainly more per capita than any other place on Earth? And how did Afghanistan become the pedophilia capital of Asia?

Sociologists and anthropologists say the problem results from perverse interpretation of Islamic law. Women are simply unapproachable. Afghan men cannot talk to an unrelated woman until after proposing marriage. Before then, they can’t even look at a woman, except perhaps her feet. Otherwise she is covered, head to ankle.

“How can you fall in love if you can’t see her face,” 29-year-old Mohammed Daud told reporters. “We can see the boys, so we can tell which are beautiful.”

Even after marriage, many men keep their boys, suggesting a loveless life at home. A favored Afghan expression goes: “Women are for children, boys are for pleasure.” Fundamentalist imams, exaggerating a biblical passage on menstruation, teach that women are “unclean” and therefore distasteful. One married man even asked Cardinalli’s team “how his wife could become pregnant,” her report said. When that was explained, he “reacted with disgust” and asked, “How could one feel desire to be with a woman, who God has made unclean?”

That helps explain why women are hidden away – and stoned to death if they are perceived to have misbehaved. Islamic law also forbids homosexuality. But the pedophiles explain that away. It’s not homosexuality, they aver, because they aren’t in love with their boys.

Addressing the loathsome mistreatment of Afghan women remains a primary goal for coalition governments, as it should be.

But what about the boys, thousands upon thousands of little boys who are victims of serial rape over many years, destroying their lives – and Afghan society.

“There’s no issue more horrifying and more deserving of our attention than this,” Cardinalli said. “I’m continually haunted by what I saw.”

As one boy, in tow of a man he called “my lord,” told the Reuters reporter: “Once I grow up, I will be an owner, and I will have my own boys.”

Joel Brinkley is a professor of journalism at Stanford University and is a former Pulitzer Prize-winning foreign correspondent for the New York Times.

13 thoughts on “Afghanistan: when I grow up, I will have my own boyz……”

  1. l think that even if the meat is uncovered, these hypocrites would still be attracted to boys even as they preach that homosexuals should be put to death.

  2. Perhaps this is what Mohammad was referring to when he talked about Paradise;
    “As for the righteous, they will drink a cup of wine from a spring, making it gush forth abundantly.” Qur’an 76:19 “And round them shall serve immortal boys of perpetual freshness, never altering in age. If you saw them, you would think they were scattered pearls.” Qur’an 76:21 “Upon them will be green garments of fine green silk and heavy gold brocade. They will be adorned with bracelets of silver; their Lord will slack their thirst with wine.” Qur’an 76:5

    “The Prophet said, ‘In Paradise they will not urinate, relieve nature, spit, or have any nasal secretions. Everyone will have two virgins who will be so beautiful and transparent the bones of their legs will be seen through their flesh.'” Bukhari:V4B54N476-544 Oooh, yuk!

    Regardless, that is what happens to oversexed Muslims when they can’t see what a woman looks like.
    They start fantasizing about Muhammad’s promises of Paradise.
    That’s another reason to ban the burka, the niqab and hijab and let women be…what Yahweh has created to attract men in the first place.
    Why cover one of his most prized creations.

  3. hi,
    i just want to say that your way of making an anology beteween this horrible child abuse tradition and islam is really not fair.

    this practice (that is making me cry) is NOT related to islam!

    Moreover, don’t forget that this king of abuses were really common in the ancient greece… especially among philosophers (Plato…):
    (Pederasty or paederasty (US: /ˈpÉ›dÉ™ræsti/, UK: /ˈpiːdÉ™ræsti/) is a (usually erotic) relationship between an older man and an adolescent boy outside his immediate family. The word pederasty derives from Greek (paiderastia) “love of children” or “love of boys”,[1] a compound derived from παῖς (pais) “child, boy” and ἐραστής (erastÄ“s) “lover”.
    Historically, pederasty has existed as a variety of customs and practices within different cultures. The status of pederasty has changed over the course of history, at times considered an ideal and at other times a crime.
    In the history of Europe, its most structured cultural manifestation was Athenian pederasty, and became most prominent in the 6th century BC. Greek pederasty’s various forms were the subject of philosophic debates in which the carnal type was unfavorably compared with erotic yet spiritual and moderate forms.
    The legal status of pederasty in most countries is currently determined by whether or not the boy has reached the local age of consent. When illegal, law enforcement generally treats it as a form of child sexual abuse.)

    islam prohibites any kind of homosexuality … as all the religions of the Book. This cultural sickness has nothing to do with islam… – during the taliban’s reign these abuses just stopped because there were declared unislamic-

    please stop to add more hate … stop to make relation between bad things and islam… our world will feel better!


  4. * please stop to add more hate … stop to make relation between bad things and islam… our world will feel better!

    Tell it to allah and its followers, and get back with its response. I suspect it will flip you a bird.

  5. i don’t acually…you can criticise as much as you want! i just think that is useless : i prefer to fight against hate than to make it stronger…
    i was just telling that this horrible practice is unislamic and is absolutely not related to the religion (but to a cultural practice that makes me sick). therefore i don’t understand this unjustified stigmatisation

    however, i am just wondering why there is so much hate in your speeches…how can this religion be such a problem in your daily life…

    this is a mystery for me … i think that u must be fascinated in a way ! ^___^
    the thing is that this religion will never stop to grow, there will be more and more muslims on earth, there is nothing you can do about it 🙂

    i want to end my post in a nice way with a qutotation of Charles Ingalls in the Highway to Heaven: ‘God works in mysterious ways’ (dixit : the Bible)

    peace to you my brothers!

  6. Disgusted with BS:


    Homosexuality was and is widely practised in Islamic conutries. To please the homosexuals among his followers, Muhammad promised them pre-pubescent boys in Paradise. So after committing plunder, loot, rape and murder in this life, the followers of Islam get “rewarded” by untouched virginal youths who are fresh like pearls.

    The relevant verses from the Koran are:

    Koran 52:24
    Round about them will serve, to them, boys (handsome) as pearls well-guarded.

    Koran 56:17
    Round about them will serve boys of perpetual freshness.

    Koran 76:19
    And round about them will serve boys of perpetual freshness: if thou seest them, thou wouldst think them scattered pearls.

    As mentioned in my previous article, famous poets in Arabia glorified homosexuality. As an example I am including a poem in ‘Perfumed Garden’ by Abu Nuwas:
    O the joy of sodomy!
    So now be sodomites, you Arabs.
    Turn not away from it–
    therein is wondrous pleasure.
    Take some coy lad with kiss-curls
    twisting on his temple
    and ride as he stands like some gazelle
    standing to her mate.
    A lad whom all can see girt with sword
    and belt not like your whore who has
    to go veiled.
    Make for smooth-faced boys and do your
    very best to mount them, for women are
    the mounts of the devils

    Need I say anything more after this colorful rendition by Abu Nuwas ?

    Want more? There’s always more:

    Men in Afghanistan aren’t gay, they just prefer to sodomize men …

  7. * not like your whore who has to go veiled

    But, but, she wears the thing by choice (except where mandated by allah).

  8. * how can this religion be such a problem in your daily life…

    Take it up with allah, and get back with its response. Many of us have a problem with allah seeking to forcibly convert us, kill us, or extract protection money from us (sura 9:29).

    Challenge allah, instead of whinging to the intended victims of its racket.

  9. * Highway to Heaven

    Something muslims need not concern themselves with, as they are in the HOV lane to the other place.

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