Question fromÂ Aloya:
Salams. My husband is a Muslim but I’m not. We married in an Islamic way one year ago. My husband wants me to know Islam better. I tried to read the Qur’an but there are things I can’t get, and I am not satisfied by the answers I get. First, wife hitting: how can that be a way of discipline? It looks humiliating, and why would any husband who loves his wife humiliate her in that way? Second, why can men have 4 wives? Can he be the same with all? Can a person love 4 other persons in the same time? What about the sexual diseases? Is it natural that in one night a husband sleeps with one woman and other night with a second woman, etc.? How can one woman, one human being, feel about it?
“…there is no question of humiliating one’s wife by beating her as a religious norm in Islam.”
The Prophet is our perfect role model, and he never used his hands to strike anyone; neither a man or woman or anyone else, for that matter, as his own beloved wife `Aishah told us.
Muslim (4:2127)Â – Muhammad struck his favorite wife, Aisha, in the chest one evening when she left the house without his permission.Â Aisha narrates,Â “He struck me on the chest which caused me pain.”–
So, there is no question of humiliating one’s wife by beating her as a religious norm in Islam.
As for polygamy, you are again wrong in assuming it to be a norm; the norm in Islam is one wife. However, polygamy is allowed under certain conditions and circumstances. It is an exception. Â (Not)
Hiding behind Christians & Jews:
For your information, polygamy was never banned in the Jewish or Christian scriptures. We know most of the great Biblical prophets practiced it.
Allah Almighty knows best.